My father has discovered friends away from home and possibly the ones he had never imagined to meet this way. One of them was his senior in high school and another was his roommate nearly 40 years ago! The latter is in our building itself and they have become companions again. Imagine meeting someone after 40 years and that too accidentally one fine morning! I think the only person I met after a long time, that too in a place somehow I never expected was M and it was a surprise to me that I could recognize him at all. I knew he was working in Hyderabad but I never expected him to stay in the same lane as myself!
Why is having an offspring or not be anybody's decision other than yourself? It is a very important thing in one's life but is that the only important thing in life? If you see the way many of us behave when we see or hear about someone not having a kid after about 5 years of marriage, it is very irritating. Of course mothers on either side will be behind their life but most of the times, it is the adhoc population in their society that pushes them to do so. First thing the elderly ladies ask when they think of the other's son/daughter is if there is any 'good news'. If the answer is yes, they don't bother to ask anything more about that person other than when the due date is. If no, they will condole it, inquire as to what is possibly causing the delay and end up as if the mother has sinned in not urging her child to produce an offspring in time! Why the hell does it matter to them? As if they are going to raise the child! Actually I think men are much better - I don't think they hound other men this way. What ails women? What fun do they get this way?
Why is having an offspring or not be anybody's decision other than yourself? It is a very important thing in one's life but is that the only important thing in life? If you see the way many of us behave when we see or hear about someone not having a kid after about 5 years of marriage, it is very irritating. Of course mothers on either side will be behind their life but most of the times, it is the adhoc population in their society that pushes them to do so. First thing the elderly ladies ask when they think of the other's son/daughter is if there is any 'good news'. If the answer is yes, they don't bother to ask anything more about that person other than when the due date is. If no, they will condole it, inquire as to what is possibly causing the delay and end up as if the mother has sinned in not urging her child to produce an offspring in time! Why the hell does it matter to them? As if they are going to raise the child! Actually I think men are much better - I don't think they hound other men this way. What ails women? What fun do they get this way?
It's the immanence of woman's life in society that has led to this behaviour.
ReplyDeleteOr, men are just happy that other men aren't potent like them.